Hello Transparent T’s! The topic today is one I am highly passionate about. In womanhood, we come to the table with all different life path’s and experience’s when we decide to venture out and create new friendship’s.
As we dive into this conversation I think it is very important to define what I mean by the term ‘confident’ and ‘insecure’. A confident woman in friendships exudes assurance, prioritizing trust and open communication, fostering genuine connections. She embraces her strengths and supports her friends unconditionally, valuing their individuality. Conversely, an insecure woman may struggle with jealousy and validation-seeking behaviors, often doubting her worth and feeling threatened by others' successes, leading to strained relationships.
Now that we have cleared the air, I can vouch for the confident women in this generation who put effort into friendship’s and always feel like they end up out of sync. Despite all your sinsere efforts you always end up on fringes with a shallow feeling in your heart,misunderstood and mistreated.
As I vouch for you, there a thousand’s of other women who I can guarantee you have felt the same. But, we remain resilient in life, persisting for genuine connection amid the challanges we encounter.
Insecure women may exhibit behaviors such as unfollowing on social media, removing themselves from private Snapchat stories, or excluding confident friends from close Instagram circles. They might also resort to using smart remarks about possessions or living situations, or posting subliminal messages aimed at undermining their confident sister in womanhood. These actions, more than often driven by jealousy or insecurity, erode trust and intimacy within friendships, hindering genuine connections and perpetuating feelings of isolation and resentment.
When you are a confident women, you come to the table with a automatic self-assured nature. You excude confidence in your abilites, decisions and worth. You posses a strong sense of self-belief about any subject or topic you are passionate about and are comfortable with who you are. You approach challanges with resilience by trusting your own judgement because you know your capabilities. You radiate calmness,assurance,inspiration and admiration from many around you!
So, when we sit and ask ourselves,”Why does this happen to confident women?” We have to reverse our thinking to understanding the other party and the inadequacy to include confident women due to another women’s assertiveness or happiness. This open’s up a ball park of believe it or not, trigger’s and feeling of inadeqacy from insecure women. Steming from comparison with other confident women, feeling they lack various aspects of appearance,achievement or even social status. This is why many time’s resorting to exluding confident women is used to alleviate their own feelings of inferiority temporarily wanting to diminish confident women as their perceived threat,boosting their self-esteem.
The research completed on the confident women vs inseucre women suggets that women who are confident have a higher level of overall well-being,self-esteem and sucess in various areas of their life. They are more likely to oursue their goals, build strong relationships and navgigate challanges effectively. On the flip side, insecure women experience higher levels of stress, lower self-esteem and have a difficulty fulfilling meaningful connections in friendships and relationship’s.
One of the big understandings as a woman in this womanhood I truly believe I needed to comprehend is that everything is based on upbringing,experience’s and social norms. But, this is never to be used continuously for not wanting to be a true girl’s girl in this life, we do not enable the behavior we set boundaries on it.
If you are facing these behavior’s I want to start off with an apology to you because you deserve better. A women who come’s out of her home and strives to put herself out there to build genuine connections should never leave a table feeling a heavy heart. Recognize that this has nothing to do with your shortcomings, remain self-assured and understanding. I know it is easy to go tit for tat but what is that gaining you in this life?
If God closes a door, do you think the best of planner’s didn’t hear what was said to close it? Believe in him, trust in him. “How” by not internalizing the negativity, if you respond do so with your boundaries because it can help diffuse tension and do not enable into their insecurities or behaviors. Reccomend professional help such as therapy or counseling for deeper issues because these are beyond your capacity to address. Above all, go prioritize friendship’s with supportuve individuals who can appreciate your strengths, adventures and practice self-care so you maintain a strong support network and presence.
These conversation’s are important for us to discuss among our womanhood because as women we want to see other women creating a sense of solidarity and empowerment so we can feel understood and valued.
By supporting each other we challange sterotypes and harmful narratives leading to advancement in systemic barriers. We cannot continue to hide the fact that if all women supported each other and put our experience’s together it would not lead to valuable insights,advice and mentorship to a younger generation or less experienced group of women.
This in turn helps other’s in our womanhood navigate challenge's, make decisions and achieve their goals. We preach about role models, when women uplift each other it creates role models for our future generations to see women succeed, collaborate, and motivate young girls to support one another and believe in their abilities. It can stay with us or it can start with us!
Love,
Transparent Tasanee.
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